Marrying Your 8-Year-Old Daughter to a Man in His 40s

Living in Kentucky and having friends who have lived in some of the ‘backwoods’ places in the United States, I’ve heard numerous stories about how marriages often happen when kids are in the early teens.

I had an employee introduce me to his wife one day. At the time, Billy Joe was 52 and his wife was 53. The next day, Billy Joe explained that he grew in the backwoods of Arkansas and was proud to be a hillbilly. He then told me that he and wife were OLD when they got married. Billy Joe was 14 and his wife was 15 at the time. He said many got married younger, but in most cases, the marriages were consensual between the young teens and their parents.

Doing research on my own family, I discovered that my great-great-great grandfather married quite young and had his first and only child (my great-great grandfather) with his young bride when he was only 15. That marriage only lasted a few years before she divorced him.

Marrying young is nothing new, but in today’s society, at least in most of America, it is illegal to get married too young. I moved to Kentucky in 1996 and was shocked a few years later when the legal age for marriage was raised to 18 without parental consent and 16 with parental consent.

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I got married at 19 and have to admit now that I’m not sure I was fully ready for marriage, even at that age.

But, what about a girl marrying as young as 8 or 9? Worse yet, what about a girl that young being married without her consent or knowledge of what was happening?

Consider this recent report:

‘”At eight years old my parents sat me down for a serious talk,’ said Noushin, during the interview. ‘I can still remember the tremble in my mother’s voice. She told me that in two days I would be part of an Islamic religious blessing. My father insisted that I behave, and not cause a scene. I was confused, but I trusted them, that they were telling me the truth. I trusted them right up to the moment that the wedding ring went onto my finger and I became the bride of a 43 year old man.’ Noushin, now 19, is the mother of three.”

“You might assume that her parents, who so willingly gave their child to this man, were not educated or had never been exposed to modern ways of thinking. In fact, Noushin’s father had been educated in Europe, and then came back to his country to work for the regime.”

“Noushin said the wedding was ‘a nightmare I could not wake up from. I understood that I was married, but I did not understand what that meant.’ She said was forced to have sexual intercourse before she reached puberty. ‘Each day was filled with new confusion, and new horrors,’ she said, as she tried to become accustomed to the role she was forced to endure.”

“‘I thought the move into my husband’s house was a punishment by my parents because I had not listened when they told me to stop playing a week before. I hoped that after that, it was torture, they would bring me back to my parents the next day. But it soon became clear that this was not a temporary punishment, it would last a lifetime’.”

Shocking? If you have a young daughter or granddaughter, imagine this happening to her. If you think this is a rare occurrence, think again, as reported:

  • The prevalence child marriage “still remains far too high. In a set of 25 countries for which detailed analysis was conducted, at least one in three women marry before the age of 18, and one in five women have their first child before the age of 18.” — World Bank.
  • According to official Iranian statistics, 180,000 child marriages take place there each year. In addition, in 2013 in Iran, a law was passed that allows men to marry their adopted daughters.
  • Facebook acted as an auction block for a child bride in South Sudan as recently as last month.

Yes, this may be happening in places like Iran and South Sudan, but take moment and realize that the same religious beliefs of these two nations is increasing here in the US and a growing number of them are pushing for the same basic laws (sharia laws) to be part of American law. This religion also seems to have the full support and endorsement of Democrats and the mainstream media. I’ve already seen instances of this showing up in American courts.

As you take your young daughters and granddaughters in your arms, you owe it to them to make sure this type of thing doesn’t happen here in America, because under Democrat rule, it could.


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R.L. David Jolly holds a B.S. in Wildlife Biology and an M.S. in Biology – Population Genetics. He has worked in a number of fields, giving him a broad perspective on life, business, economics and politics. He is a very conservative Christian, husband, father and grandfather who cares deeply for his Savior, family and the future of our troubled nation.

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