Ever since the Senate Judiciary Committee circus was held (the testimony and questioning of Christine Blasey Ford and Judge Brett Kavanaugh), many women have come forward with their claims of sexual assault. Ford has been criticized about the lack of memory of much of what happened to her.
In her testimony, she remembered the fine details of the assault, but didn’t recall where it actually took place, how she got there or how she got home or what year it took place. She also claimed to have had only one beer at a gathering where others were stumbling drunk, a claim that begs the response of ‘oh really?’
So many other sexual assault victims claim they only recall certain details but not everything. Experts testify that it’s common for trauma victims to only recall certain details and block other memories, usually the most traumatic, frightening or hurtful. They tend to recall details leading up to and after the trauma, but not the trauma itself (in most instances). If that’s the case, then why did Ford recall the most traumatic and frightening part of her alleged assault, but little else leading up to and after? Her recall goes against what most of experts say happens with most trauma victims.
In May 1968, I was sexually assaulted. I belonged to a Boy Scout Explorer Post and was riding in the back of a pickup with several other teens and our Post leader. We were returning home from a large company owned swimming pool that I had access to.
On the trip home, the scout leader, who had been drinking, began fondling my genitals through my swim suit. I pushed his hand away several times, but he kept after me and then turned to the teen boy on the other side of him and began fondling him.
Rather than reporting it to my parents, which I almost did, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I gathered the five other boys that were in the back of the pickup, all of which were either fondled or witnessed what happened and we went to the barbershop the scout leader owned. We were all armed with either a gun or large knife, and while the leader was giving some man a haircut, we confronted him about what he did. During the confrontation, we told him that if he ever touched us or anyone else again, we would cut off his hand and his genitals. He was visibly shaken and his customer left the barbershop.
We were met outside by a police officer and we told him what happened with the sexual assaults and that we did threated him if he ever did it again. The officer took statements from each of us and upon an investigation, it was learned that he had been molesting other boys for years. He was arrested and charged with the assaults. He was found guilty of multiple accounts and sentenced to more than 25 years in prison. Two years later, we learned that he was stabbed and killed by a group of other prisoners.
I recall everything about this incident in great detail, including when, where, how I got there and how I got home (I drove to the barbershop and drove home afterwards). The pickup was driven by the assistant Post leader. I won’t name names, but I can if necessary.
It was a very traumatic event and at the time, I was scared, horrified and angry, but I recall it all.
Do I believe Ford’s account of her assault? I find it highly questionable. I think she believes she was assaulted somewhere, sometime by someone, but her 100% certainty that it was Kavanaugh is highly suspect, especially with her lack of memory of everything el
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