10 Christian Responses that Miss the Mark on LGBT Issues

10 Christian Responses that Miss the Mark on LGBT Issues

The LGBT movement has moved toward the churches with the goal of discouraging biblical views on homosexuality.

This turn has alarmed many people. Needless to say, many well-intended responses by churches have backfired massively.

I cannot blame church leaders. The LGBT movement largely blindsided them.

The instinct of religious figures was to make their church feel or look good. They did not understand clearly who, those affected, were as people. Church leaders crafted responses to the people they saw in the public square—namely, activists. This left out people struggling with homosexuality or pressured into it by the LGBT community.

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People seem not to understand why certain answers to the LGBTQ challenge make things worse. That is why I am providing a quick list here. It explains why the response that looks good to the average Christian is usually the wrong response.

But first, I want to make a statement about the biblical case for heterosexuality. Yes, heterosexuality.

The great error of Christians has been to debate the Bible’s ban on homosexuality.

One can draw the ban from “clobber verses” scattered throughout the text. The Bible does ban homosexuality, but the LGBT activists developed ways to diffuse or deflect it. They contrast this ban against other bans that Christians do not follow, such as the rule about wearing cloth with two fabrics.

From the beginning, the more righteous focus should have been the affirmative command for heterosexuality.

You get two chapters into the first book of the Bible and you see that God created Adam and Eve “male and female,” so that they would become one flesh and reproduce. The language of Genesis makes it clear that Eve is a gift to Adam so that he will not be alone. Genesis speaks in categorical terms of male and female, not in individual or historically specific terms. This language is upheld by both Jesus Christ (Matthew 19) and by the Apostle Paul.

While homosexuality is banned, heterosexuality is mandated. The difference here is that heterosexuality grounds the very beginning of God’s covenant with mankind.

By allowing the debate to center on whether homosexuality is banned or not, churches gave LGBT activists a massive opening.

The LGBT activists have continued to abuse it. They find ways to create exceptions or loopholes to say that the ban does not apply to them. Jesus Christ never explicitly mentions same-sex relations, for instance. This is perhaps the detail LGBT activists exploit most conspicuously.

I can only speak for myself: my journey out of homosexuality to heterosexuality came about because I realized that God created my body to give pleasure to a woman. In all my years in the gay community, I never sensed that my body was equipped to bring physical happiness to a man.

Even if I could convince myself that God did not explicitly forbid this activity (which I could not, but others could), I could never claim in good faith that God told me to do what I was doing with men. Yet God told me to do something else with my body, involving women, and I was not doing it.

That is why I left the gay lifestyle. It has taken me 20 years to sort through all this and put it into words. And, the difference here is crucial to understand as you work your way through this list.

10 Statements that Backfire from Christians on LGBT Issues

1. “I am sorry for how the church treated homosexuals.”

The church has policed heterosexuality severely, often stigmatizing both men and women who break the basic rules of chastity. The church never became particularly fixated on homosexuals or targeted them.

Everyone who breaks the basic moral code of Christianity has to confront judgment and possible scorn from Christians who are too harsh. There was never any sound basis for singling out homosexuals and telling them that their treatment was exceptionally bad.

By apologizing to gays for past homophobia, church leaders are basically behaving evasively, avoiding the deeper issues and trying to find a quick fix to look and/or feel good. The result is a conversation that misrepresents the history of the Church and the Bible.

2. “Let’s have a dialogue with the LGBT community.”

The “LGBT community” in this case consists usually of famous or powerful people who have appointed themselves leaders of the LGBT community. The dialogue virtually never involves an honest and heartfelt discussion with people who are engaging in homosexuality and need to figure out where to go with their faith.

The problem with talking to the LGBT “leaders” is that such leaders are inherently political and Machiavellian; they do not tell the truth about everything the LGBT community does, and they are not concerned with individuals’ well-being as much as they care about a political or economic agenda.

3. “Heterosexuality is just as sinful as homosexuality.”

I understand why people say this. They think they are going to look nice to gays who would otherwise fear they are going to be judged as sinners. But this statement is absolutely false.

One sexual orientation is mandated for all human beings and the other is banned for all human beings. People who want to get out of homosexuality need to hear about how wonderful heterosexuality is and how eagerly they should strive toward it.

They do not want to be told that suddenly all sex is just as bad as the bad sex they have in the gay world; that is demoralizing.

4. “The desires are not sinful, only the actions are.”

This is completely unbiblical. Jesus Christ says that we are defiled from what flows out of our hearts. He includes sexual perversions in His list of examples.

Setting aside the research into homosexuality, most psychologists will acknowledge that people can direct their thoughts to try to be more positive thinkers. Also, if you avoid temptations, eventually they decrease.

In my own experience talking to gay men, I know that if you stop watching porn and stop masturbating while you fantasize about homosexuals, the thoughts of homosexuality decrease. You start feeling your body have authentic reactions that start to include arousal toward females.

Moreover, if you avoid places where homosexuality is projected lasciviously, you find your mind less haunted by homosexuality.

There is no value whatsoever in telling someone to wallow in desires that would be terribly sinful to indulge. It traps people in a state of constant helplessness and anxiety.

5. “First, we will bring you to Jesus, and then He will deliver you.”

Recently I spoke with a very trustworthy gentleman in the ex-gay movement and I had to tell him frankly, this statement is a complete turnoff.

I understand why they say this: they are trying to avoid the accusation that they are engaging in maligned conversion therapy. So they mask what they are doing as just converting you to Christianity and then waiting for God to change your heart. But the New Testament clearly provides details about how Christians are to deal with practical matters as they spread the Gospel.

Christ mentions the parable of sheep and goats, outlining that if a person in this life ignores the practical needs of others, the person is rejecting Christ (Matthew 25). If we should visit prisoners and bring clothing to those who are without clothes, why should we tell someone who is basically addicted to sinful sex that they are on their own and they should just pray?

If Jesus is going to intervene and convert the person to faith on His own schedule, that does not mean we should not reach out and help the person with the crisis they are facing right now.

And yes, many people who are stuck in homosexuality want to become straight. They can become straight. Why not help them with that?

By telling them the church will avoid that issue in favor of general Jesus Christ talk, the church is really making the person feel neglected and alone. And homosexuality is a social justice issue. It involves a systematic abuse of a specific group of people: people caught in the gay lifestyle. The church needs to be in the lead on that.

6. “We acknowledge that homosexual relationships are capable of true love.”

Again, I can see why people say this. You do not want to look closed-minded or mean. But homosexual relationships never involve love. They are perversions.

The act between two men is damaging in a way that heterosexuality never is. The whole gay community is based on identifying yourself according to what you want, not what other people want.

So the idea of love we get from Christ—there is no greater love than this, to lay down your life for a friend—is utterly absent. So, too, is the sense of patience and submission to godliness that we get in Paul’s letter to the Corinthians.

If you think homosexuality is a sin, do not say that it is true love. It’s not true and it’s not love.

7. “We will not force you to be heterosexual, we only ask that you be celibate.”

The Bible says that God created us to be heterosexual. Do what God says. Stop being chic and anti-biblical. Of course, the goal is to make people heterosexual.

Why would somebody be completely hostile to the sexual gifts of half the human race? It is not a huge demand to ask men to appreciate women and to ask women to appreciate men.

8. “We want LGBTs to feel welcome in our church.”

Who is more likely to come to your church in good faith? Someone who is struggling with homosexuality and desperately trying to leave, or someone who is engaging in wanton acts of homosexuality and refuses to stop?

The church cannot be welcoming to both these people simultaneously, because where one person is, the other person is obviously going to feel unwelcome.

Unfortunately, that is the way things work. It is why Jesus said He came to divide, not to unite. It is also why most of the prophets warned against people trying to please everyone at once.

If your church is a safe space for the Gospel, it has to be a safe space for refugees from LGBT tyranny. It will not be a safe space for the latter if it is a safe space for LGBT tyranny. And anything labeled LGBT is fake and tyrannical, the very thing oppressing the people who would come to your church with help getting out of homosexuality.

9. “We want to meet gays where they are.”

Do you know whom you need to meet where they are? The gays who want to become straight and feel trapped.

Nobody who says #9 is actually meeting those people where they are, because they are looking over them and trying to appeal to another group of people—self-satisfied and committed homosexuals—who are generally mean and dismissive to people who want to become straight, as well as uninterested in really being part of the church.

10. “We want to focus on common ground, not on divisive issues.”

If this is the case, then why are Christian churches holding LGBT conferences and hosting LGBT ministries?

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