Being a Mom Does Not Make One a Mother

I know a family with two daughters. One of the daughters has a daughter who is now a teenager and the other daughter is childless due to medical issues. The daughter who is a mom, regularly flaunts her motherhood over her childless sister.

However, from knowing this family, I can say with certainty that the daughter who has a child is mom, but NOT a mother, while the childless daughter would make a great and wonderful mother if given the chance.

The daughter who has a daughter is a tyrant not a mother. Her daughter has been her slave from the time she could walk. The toddler was made to throw her own dirty diapers away. As she grew older, she was forced to take on many of the household chores. By the time she reached junior high school, the child was pretty much a live-in maid for her mom, who was also very controlling.

That child is now in high school and working part time. Her mom takes all of her earnings, saying that the daughter owes her mom for all that her mom had to pay to raise her. The mom controls the daughter’s social life and everything she does.

Trending: Normalizing Sin Has Consequences

The mom’s childless sister has for years mourned for her niece. She recognizes that there is no real love from her sister for her daughter. The only person her sister loves is herself and has been unwilling to sacrifice anything for her own daughter.

The childless sister has often pointed out that her sister is a mom but not a mother.

So, what is the difference between a mom and mother?

It’s easy to be a mom. All one has to do is have sex and get pregnant. But being a mother requires so much more. One of the problems facing America today is that the number of moms is increasing while the number of mothers is decreasing.

A mother loves her children by doing for them rather than forcing them to do for her. A mother sacrifices her time and so much more for her children, instead of taking from the children all she can.

A mother loses sleep over a sick child instead of complaining how the sick child has exhausted her.

A mother teaches her children how to do things so that they can do them when they become an adult, but not to make them a slave to the mom.

A mother trains her children for the day they get married and have a family of their own whereas a mom only trains her children to serve her. In the case of the two sisters, the mom has told her teenaged daughter that she can never move out because she needs her to take care of her.

A mother trains up her children in the way of the Lord whereas a mom doesn’t.

A mother prays for her children but mom doesn’t.

A mother devotes herself to raising godly children, but a mom doesn’t.

As we celebrate Mother’s Day today, ladies, ask yourself if you are a mom or a mother and note that this is Mother’s Day, NOT Mom’s Day.

The opinions expressed by columnists are their own and do not necessarily represent the views of Barb Wire.

R.L. David Jolly holds a B.S. in Wildlife Biology and an M.S. in Biology – Population Genetics. He has worked in a number of fields, giving him a broad perspective on life, business, economics and politics. He is a very conservative Christian, husband, father and grandfather who cares deeply for his Savior, family and the future of our troubled nation.

Join the conversation!

We have no tolerance for comments containing violence, racism, profanity, vulgarity, doxing, or discourteous behavior. Thank you for partnering with us to maintain fruitful conversation.