Am I ‘Bigoted’ and ‘Hateful’? Or Is That Defensive Mud-Slinging?

Barb Wire

It’s very common these days for people, or groups of people, to be labeled as “bigots.” Due to some of my personal convictions I often find such labels being thrown at me, if only indirectly and impersonally. But do labels like that actually fit me? I can very confidently say no.

If you were to ask anyone who knows me if I might be ‘bigoted’ or ‘hateful,’ they’d probably look at you like you had two heads. Those words simply don’t line up with anything about my character. The only way I ever would be called such things is if someone somewhere is slinging mud around without regard to who gets splashed with it.

For one thing, no one who knows me would ever call me “racist.” I cannot in any way relate to a person considering another person beneath them because of their skin color or their ethnicity. Martin Luther King’s statement that people should be judged by the content of their character, rather than by the color of their skin, gets a big “amen” from me.

Now, do I believe that anyone should get special treatment because of their race? No. Does that make me racist? No. It shows me to be in opposition to racism – even when it involves people who want to be judged by the color of their skin, rather than by the content of their character.

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Am I OK with people entering our country in defiance of its laws, and with no loyalty towards it? No. Does that make me racist? No. I don’t care what color they might be or where they’re coming from; I am only concerned with their actions. (Come to think of it, I’m not too keen on people who are from this country and have no loyalty towards it.)

Then there’s the question of another kind of supposed “bigotry.” I believe that homosexuality and transsexualism should never be encouraged or legitimized in any way. Does that make me “bigoted,” “homophobic,” “transphobic” or whatever? No. My position is not based on any “bigotry” or “phobia.”

As hard as our society has tried to convince itself otherwise, “nontraditional sexuality” is simply not analogous to things like race, eye color or left-handedness. It is not an innate physical trait; it is an issue of the mind – an addressable one – and must be treated as such.

Regardless of whatever we’re all supposed to accept as “settled science” these days, real evidence from real life – in plain sight, under microscopes, and everywhere in between – just keeps right on defying much of the conventional wisdom. And one thing it keeps confirming is that there is a definite design to sexuality – one that is violated by a number of lifestyles and activities, including LGBT ones.

When that design is violated, it leads to no real benefits and causes much harm. Hearts get hardened or broken, self-respect gets destroyed, confusion sets in, addictive behavior is fueled, babies get aborted or born into unsuitable environments, and diseases are spread.

The standard given by the Creator – one man, one woman, for life – may seem strict, and hard for many people to live according to. But it is no more unfair to one group of people than to another. If anyone has a problem with that standard, you can bet that they’re looking to sexuality, in one form or another, to give them something that it was never designed to provide.

So, by believing that “nontraditional sexuality” should never be encouraged, I am not showing “bigotry,” “hate” or “phobia.” I am merely recognizing that sexuality should be kept within the boundaries that its Designer has established.

There’s another reason that there is no “bigotry” or “hate” in my position. I am well aware of the sins in my own life and I do not consider them to be lesser than those in someone else’s. The crucial difference is that I have turned away from them. I didn’t choose to have them, and I didn’t get away from them without a lot of time, faith and help. But I didn’t claim that they weren’t sins, or resign myself to them, or try to get others to accept them, or let them become part of my identity.

It’s not “bigotry” or “hate” to say that LGBT people need to do the same thing that everyone else needs to. All of us are called to submit to our Creator and turn our backs on whatever gets between us and him, no matter how deeply it dwells inside of us.

When I see an LGBT person, I don’t look upon them with hate, contempt or disgust. Rather, I see a person who has surrendered to something in their life that was actually meant to be conquered. I see a person who has embraced lies which, if they don’t walk away from them, will eventually leave them at some low place that they never anticipated.

It’s true that some individuals use genuinely hateful language towards LGBT people, and a few may even commit hateful and harmful actions towards them. Certainly this could be called “hate” and even “bigotry.” But it’s not anywhere near as common as we’re supposed to believe. More to the point, it doesn’t remotely represent where the majority of “anti-LGBT” people stand, and it’s completely out of line with Biblical positions.

Ironically, with all of the protesting of supposed “hate and bigotry” against LGBT people, it actually benefits the LGBT cause for self-proclaimed “Christians” to express hate toward them – and the more publicly, the better. As long as the Christian position can be convincingly portrayed as being “hateful and bigoted,” LGBT people can be represented as innocent victims who deserve everyone’s unquestioning agreement; and people who might be motivated to leave the world of LGBT – and thus help expose the lies it’s founded on – will believe there’s nowhere for them to go. There’s a reason the news generally doesn’t give airtime to any “Christian” positions on LGBT issues unless they’re like that of Westboro Baptist Church (whose members, given how conveniently they can be used by the media, might just as well be paid actors).

LGBT people who talk about “bigotry” would apparently rather deal with a hundred Westboros than with one person who doesn’t hate them or judge them, but also doesn’t consider their lifestyle to be acceptable. They can’t even acknowledge such a position, because they ultimately have no response to it. It doesn’t line up with any part of their narrative, and they can’t counter it rationally. They can only fool themselves, and others, by trying to hide it behind a great big, all-compassing label of “bigotry.”

The opinions expressed by columnists are their own and do not necessarily represent the views of Barb Wire.

David Mann
David Mann has been involved for many years in a Christian ministry for recovery from sexual addictions. As a freelance writer, he has also contributed to American Clarion/Dakota Voice and Life & Liberty News.

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