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Kids Need True Truth: Indulging Childish Fantasies Can Have Dire Consequences


By Denise Shick – BarbWire guest contributor

“Billy, it’s up to you. If you say the earth is a sphere, then it’s a sphere. If you say it’s a cube, then it’s a cube.”

“Sally, you must decide what two plus two equals. The answer is whatever you choose.”

Would you accept such guidance from your children’s teachers?

Well, that’s the kind of choose-your-facts education many public-school children—often as young as kindergartners—are getting about gender. “Wanda, you can be whatever—or whoever—you want to be, including Walter. It’s all up to you.”

And it’s going even beyond that now. Imagine not just one teacher telling one student she may choose any answer to two plus two. Imagine school boards insisting that every teacher within the school district must proactively teach every student that the answer to two plus two is whatever they choose.

That’s the level of lunacy spreading across America’s education system when it comes to gender.

Perhaps that doesn’t surprise you in this “alternative facts,” “fake news,” believe-as-you-choose culture. But if it fails to surprise you, I hope it still bothers you. If it doesn’t bother you, then let me give you more background.

Transgender advocates assert that many children are born with a mind/body conflict (a mind of one gender and a body of the opposite gender), and the only solution to such a conflict is to alter the body so that it matches the brain’s thoughts. The biggest flaw in that assertion is that children’s brains are still developing. A typical human brain isn’t fully developed, even by the end of the teen years.

“Oh, she’s going through another stage.” You’ve heard that—or even said it. A friend told me that at one point in his childhood he really wanted to become a dog. Not surprisingly, he’s grateful he still walks on two legs and can pass a fire hydrant without wanting to mark his territory. Kids go through stages, often very fanciful and even bizarre stages. Parents shouldn’t berate their children for being children who have immature fantasies. But neither should they indulge those fantasies.

Where’s the line between tolerating and indulging a fantasy? That’s hard to pin down for every instance, but I’m pretty sure that giving children puberty-blocking treatments is over the line. One study of these treatments found that “there is some evidence for decreased bone mineralization, meaning an increased risk of bone fractures as young adults, potential increased risk of obesity and testicular cancer in boys, and an unknown impact upon psychological and cognitive development.”1

I’m also pretty sure that gender-altering hormone treatments for children is over the line. Such treatments can lead to mood changes, increased risk of heart disease or diabetes, blood clots, and perhaps cancer.2

But for truly devoted progressives, such risks are preferable to the risk of committing suicide because of the despondency of being caught in the wrong body. The problem is, that’s another alternative fact.

Here’s the truth: “… prior to the widespread promotion of transition affirmation, 75 to 95 percent of gender-dysphoric youth ended up happy with their biological sex after simply passing through puberty.”3 The sad, simple fact—no alternative facts here—is that people who undergo sex-reassignment surgery appear to be 20 times more likely to commit suicide than the general population.4

If Sally’s answer to the teacher’s question about two plus two is something other than four, the teacher has no right to indulge Sally’s error. The teacher’s duty is to teach facts, not to indulge—or worse yet—promote errors and fantasies. That’s even more important regarding one’s gender. Errors in numbers might make for an unbalanced checkbook. Errors in self-identity can have far worse outcomes.
1  “How Transgender Ideology Has Infiltrated My Field and Produced Large-Scale Child Abuse.”
2  “When Transgender Kids Transition,” PBS
3  “How Transgender Ideology Has Infiltrated My Field and Produced Large-Scale Child Abuse.”
4  “Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden.”


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