This is How Homosexual Marriage Impacts Me

Barb Wire

I have lost count of the number of times homosexual activists and their supporters have asked me the question: “How does gay marriage personally impact you?” Incredibly, they really believe that this question is some sort of knock-down argument which will forever silence me and others. Yeah right – as if.

I well remember one of these occasions. I had a radical reporter from a leftist newspaper who was likely a lesbian herself ask me this question over and over. I tried to assure her it certainly does affect me personally, and I told her that just an hour earlier I was physically manhandled by angry homosexual activists trying to prevent me from entering a pro-family conference.

As these militants were chanting their pro-homosexual marriage slogans, they were abusing me and others seeking to enter the event. It was only because police were on hand to take on the love brigade that we were able to make it in. I would say that is one clear way in which this impacts on me – personally.

But of course it impacts on everyone. I told this reporter that my new book offers nearly 200 documented examples of people who have been fined, fired or jailed for simply disagreeing with homosexual marriage. They were certainly personally impacted by it.

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And we must not forget the normative effect of the law. When a law passes, it is making a statement – it is telling us society approves of this or disapproves of that, and so must we. So when it passes a law allowing homosexual marriage it is telling everyone that this is what is right, and you must get on board – or else.

So the heavy hand of the law is used against all opposition. There are now thousands of examples of this from just the past few years. Simply to say on your own private Facebook page that you believe marriage should be between a man and a woman can result in you losing your job. I would call that being personally impacted.

The very fact that I regularly receive hate mail and the occasional death threat for daring to affirm heterosexual marriage certainly is another indication of how this impacts on me and my family in a very real and personal manner.

And I am not at all being melodramatic when I say that I fully expect that in the not too distant future this website will be shut down by the militants, and I may well be thrown in jail for so-called hate speech. I personally know of others who have received similar treatment, and it simply gets worse each passing day.

We are only beginning to see for example the horrific fallout in the US over the Supreme Court decision to redefine marriage. When a universal and historic institution like marriage is redefined, every single person is impacted one way or another.

And Christians who also push this baloney about not being impacted are a part of the problem. Sure, if you are in bed with the homosexualists, and/or are too cowardly and into men-pleasing to open your mouth about marriage then you won’t be impacted – at least at first. But any Christian who stands true on the Word of God will be impacted immediately and comprehensively.

I have been saying for years now: everything changes when homosexual marriage comes into law. But I am not a lone voice here. Just today an American writer, Matt Walsh, penned a great piece saying the very same thing: “Yes, Gay Marriage Hurts Me Personally”.

He is worth quoting at length. He begins by offering us a sampling of the nasty hate mail he gets (hey, I think we both get the same mail from the same folks in the tolerance brigade!). He then writes:

There’s nothing like being called a bigoted pile of garbage in the first sentence and being told in the next that love has won. Indeed, you know love has emerged victorious when a bunch of liberals are screaming in your face, calling your children ugly, and urging you to kill yourself.
Progressivism, as we’ve seen, is a bubbling cauldron of vile, hideous hatred.

They dress it up in vacuous, absurd little symbols and hashtags and bright colors, yet the elites who drive the gay agenda are not out to spread love and happiness, but hostility and suspicion. And the obedient lemmings who blindly conform, with rainbows in their Facebook photos and chanting whatever motto they’ve been assigned, don’t really understand what they’re doing or why they’re doing it. The fact that this is the same ideology to come up with vapid slogans like #LoveWins is an irony too bewildering to comprehend.

He continues:

But I wasn’t especially troubled by the progressive lynch mob and their vulgar, wretched, hateful “love.” I’m used to it. I’ve been more concerned by the large number of self-proclaimed Christians and conservatives who’ve repeatedly informed me that the whole gay marriage issue isn’t important. “It won’t affect us,” they tell me over and over again. It’s not relevant to our lives. We aren’t hurt by it. Who cares? It’s all good. Whatevs, man.

There are matters more urgent than truth and morality and the future of the human race. Like, what about the economy and stuff?

I’m not proud to say it, but I feel an immense disgust for these Apathetic, Weak, Oblivious, Scared, Distracted, Impotent, Frivolous, Christians And Conservatives (AWOSDIFCACs for short). I’m not saying disgust is the correct emotional response, but I admit I experience it. I can deal with liberals. They’re just wrong about everything. Fine. That’s simple. But AWOSDIFCACs know and understand the truth, yet yawn or shrink away in fear.

He then explains how wrong this sort of thinking is:

First, since when are we only supposed to care about things that will physically or financially affect us? Don’t we normally condemn a person who fails to act or think or speak simply because he, himself, individually, isn’t yet feeling the effect of it? Don’t we criticize a person who doesn’t care until he’s getting punched in the nose by the problem?

When we’re dealing with moral quandaries — questions of right and wrong, truth and lies — it is not a legitimate argument to say “it doesn’t affect me.” Its effect on you is irrelevant to the issue. What kind of moral idiot measures the impact of a certain evil on his own life and calibrates his concern accordingly? We might all do this sometimes, but it’s a weakness. It’s shameful. It’s cowardice and self-interest. It’s not good. You shouldn’t be proud of it.

Second, as a member of society, State-imposed falsehoods do affect you. Marriage is a certain thing with a certain nature and definition. When the State mandates that the thing is something other than what it is, and has a purpose other than its actual purpose, you are now living under a tyranny of confusion. The severity of that confusion depends on the degree of the falsehood. So if the government announced tomorrow that we must all pretend penguins are elephants and cats are squirrels, I expect I wouldn’t be seriously harmed. I might be helped because I could finally get rid of my wife’s annoying cat on the grounds that I don’t want squirrels in my house. But I would still oppose this redefinition because it’s not true, and I prefer Truth….

An improper understanding of a squirrel is one thing, though. An improper understanding of marriage, on the other hand, will destroy us. Marriage is the bedrock upon which all of human civilization rests. To expand its definition into oblivion is to weaken and destabilize it.
Hurt? Of course. You’re hurt. Everyone is hurt. This is our foundation, and we all depend on it, no matter if we’re separated from the issue by a few degrees. If your house is falling into a sinkhole, would you say it doesn’t hurt you because you happen to be standing on the top floor?

Why do you think liberals care so much about this? If it doesn’t matter, why have they dedicated years to bringing about this past Friday? Because they want gay people to love each other? Nonsense. There was never any law preventing any gay person from loving anyone or anything. The State never had any interest in encouraging, preventing, or otherwise regulating love. The State does have an interest in the foundation of civilization, which is the family. That’s why, up until recently, it recognized True Marriage.

Gay marriage is not an essential or true institution, nor does it serve any real purpose in society. There’s no practical or moral reason for the romantic lives of homosexuals to be recognized or elevated or protected in any way. Even most homosexual activists know this, despite pushing for gay marriage. Gay couples in many cases aren’t monogamous, and gay activists like Dan Savage have been very enthusiastic in extoling the virtues of open relationships and fornication.

This whole gay marriage debate is about opening up the lifelong monogamous bond of matrimony to a community that often doesn’t desire a lifelong monogamous bond. Do you understand what’s going on here? They don’t want marriage as it currently is; they want to change it into something else.

He goes into some detail about how everything changes, including especially the impact on the churches:

The first step is the churches. There are already calls to take away their tax exempt status if they oppose gay marriage. Notice when this happens, and it will happen, they will only revoke it from churches, not Planned Parenthood or public universities. Only the churches. And likely only the ones who don’t toe the line. Many churches, although they provide invaluable services to their communities, will not be able to survive the tax burden. Hundreds will close their doors basically overnight.

Next, they attack the churches legally. Remember, liberals tell us gay marriage is a human right — something akin to the right to be free from slavery. To oppose it is to essentially support the dehumanization of gay people. But churches would surely not be permitted to keep slaves, nor would they be allowed to do anything else that actually infringes on human rights. Therefore, if gay marriage is in that category, then the argument is already in place to legally prohibit churches from denying unions to gays.

This is not some kind of dire apocalyptic prophesy. It is dire, and it is apocalyptic, but I’m not speaking as a prophet. I need no divine vision to merely read the words of the Supreme Court and of our country’s most powerful leaders. After the ruling, Hilary Clinton, potentially our nation’s next president (God save us), said:

While we celebrate today, our work won’t be finished until every American can not only marry, but live, work, pray, learn and raise a family free from discrimination and prejudice.
Doesn’t affect you? Hillary Clinton just advertised the fact that she intends to investigate ‘where people pray’ to see if they’re suffering ‘discrimination.’ I would think, in her mind, a gay person being read Romans or Corinthians or Leviticus — the parts where homosexual sex is condemned as abominable and mortally sinful — would qualify as discrimination.

He concludes:

Finally, when the churches have been financially blackmailed and legally punished, and marriage has become an institution populated by all forms of depravity and corruption, all that’s left is the end of America, or what remains of it.

Some might say that’s already happened, and I wouldn’t disagree. But eventually we’ll arrive at a point where even the ones who think it “doesn’t affect them” will have to finally face the harsh reality that all of this really does, and always did.
But by then it will be too late.

Please read his entire article, then read it again, then share it with everyone you know. I have been warning people about all this for decades now, and it seems that these warnings mostly fall on deaf ears.

But perhaps if enough people start making and sharing these warnings, maybe some of God’s frozen chosen will wake from their slumber and act before they lose it all. Just maybe.

The opinions expressed by columnists are their own and do not necessarily represent the views of Barb Wire.

Bill Muehlenberg
Bill Muehlenberg, who was born in America, lives in Melbourne, Australia. He runs a web-based ministry of pro-faith, pro-family activism called CultureWatch: Bill is widely sought out by the media for comments on social issues, faith issues, and family issues, and has appeared on all the major television and radio news shows, current affairs shows, and debate programs. He is the author of In Defence of the Family; Strained Relations: The Challenge of Homosexuality, and several other books.

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