Laura Bates is a childless 28-year-old feminist who bemoans the “gender-based assumptions about girls” in society:
. . . How often do we heedlessly shower little girls with platitudes about prettiness and looks, or comment on how “big and strong” their brothers are growing? We hear comments about the sweetness and politeness of daughters, while sons are proudly described as boisterous, instead.
It is always interesting to me when feminists demand that we must emulate their failure. Nobody wants to marry Laura Bates and she has no children of her own, yet she considers herself qualified to tell the rest of us how to raise our children. Like all feminists, she assumes that normal gender roles are incompatible with women’s success or happiness. In order for women to be “equal,” feminists tell us, our society and culture must promote androgyny, so we are condemned for encouraging “sexism” if we praise girls for being pretty or describe boys as boisterous.
“Feminists have declared war on human nature,” and wish to destroy the marriage-based family, which is the basis of human civilization. Therefore, normal parents must be condemned as “sexist” if they try to raise normal children who will be successful in attracting a spouse, maintaining a marriage and raising a family. Normal parents are “sexist” for understanding that normal sex traits — the femininity of women and the masculinity of men — are attractive to normal people. Insofar as we wish our children to be normal and happy, we do encourage them in these “gender-based assumptions,” which are both natural and necessary to success in normal life.
We have met Laura Bates before, when she claimed “Women are being assaulted, abused and murdered in a sea of misogyny.” She is a failed actress, who graduated from elite Cambridge University in 2007 and launched her site Everyday Sexism in 2012. Unhappy women embrace feminism because it tells them that their unhappiness is not their own fault. Instead, feminists believe they are victims of male supremacy — externalizing responsibility by scapegoating men — and they wage war on human nature in order to destroy the system of “patriarchy” that these unhappy women blame for their own misfortunes.
“If you would be loved, love, and be lovable.”
— Benjamin Franklin
This is the problem that feminism can never solve, because feminists refuse to accept responsibility for their own unhappiness. Bitterness and envy are not attractive qualities. Feminists are not loved because they are not lovable. They make their own selfishness the basis of a political movement and, when this produces a negative reaction, they claim that this confirms that their analysis is correct: “Men hate me because I’m a feminist, and therefore more feminism is necessary!”
The circularity of this solipsistic theory never seems apparent to them. Nor do they ever seem to notice that other women succeed and achieve happiness within the “gender-based assumptions” that feminists blame for their own failure and unhappiness. These failed women presume their superiority qualifies them to tell the rest of us how to raise our children, and they want to teach this in schools:
Two teachers of color, both feminist and queer, will share their dreams for feminist education in schools. Moving from theory to action, Ileana and Tadashi work alongside their students using various feminisms such as women of color feminism, global feminism, trans-feminism and queer theory. Their pedagogical practices incorporate restorative and social justice, inspiring innovative curricula that are intersectional and interdisciplinary. In collaboration with Cheyenne Tobias, feminist artist and Ileana’s former student, Tadashi and Ileana will bring us on a visual journey through two different school contexts via the successes they’ve had and the challenges they face in bringing a feminist vision to their respective classrooms. Calling us to action through their own personal storytelling, Ileana and Tadashi will urge us to consider the role of feminism in schools and the role that schools play in feminism.
Lesbians earn 20% more than heterosexual women in the U.S., which proves women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy!
Of course, if you’re a feminist, everything proves that women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy.
First published at TheOtherMcCain.com
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