WARNING: The following passage contains content of a graphic sexual nature. Reader discretion is advised.
Corey Mock is not a rapist, but he is also no longer a wrestler at the University of Tennessee-Chattanooga, because he was accused of rape by a fellow UTC student named Molly Morris.
Morris’s version of the story is told at Vice Sports and includes the claim that someone at a party spiked her drink. Why? Because she vomited and had trouble remembering events later. However, according to Corey Mock’s father, a toxicology test showed no evidence that she had been drugged. What is acknowledged by all is that Mock had sex with Morris after she vomited. This was a bad idea.
There were a lot of bad ideas that night. It was the wee hours of the morning. Morris didn’t arrive at the party until 2 a.m., and she had two drinks before she got sick. It must have been near dawn — 4 a.m.? 5 a.m.? — before the sexual activity occurred. Corey Mock’s father says:
My son asked Molly Morris if she wanted to go into the bedroom; she said “yes”. They both lay in the bed and began kissing. He removed her pants and performed oral sex. At some point, he stopped to remove his clothes and she removed her bra. He climbed on top of her and after having some trouble entering her, she reached down and guided him inside her. At NO TIME during this encounter did Ms. Morris communicate in any way that she did not wish to engage in sexual activity, verbal or otherwise. She does not dispute that any of these details happened, she merely says she does “not remember.”
Here’s your classic “he-said/she-said” scenario and I don’t want to pass judgment, but to college boys let me say this:
DON’T HAVE SEX WITH GIRLS AFTER THEY VOMIT.
Vomit is not sexy, OK? More importantly, a girl who gets drunk to the point of vomiting is not likely to have pleasant memories of your subsequent sexual encounter. She may have no memory at all, but a night that includes both (a) vomit and (b) sex will probably not be a pleasant memory, and this seems to be a big problem.
College kids do stupid things routinely. It is clear from the story that Corey Mock genuinely liked Molly Morris. He had asked her out several times before she finally agreed to have breakfast together, and then the party two nights later. Here is the aftermath:
The morning after the party, Morris says she woke up “in the bed, naked, with a sheet. He was in the bed, too.” She got up, gathered her clothes, and left. When she got back to her apartment, she fell asleep. But she woke up not too long after that to take a shower, because she could smell the vomit on her body.
Morris felt ill all day. “It was not hangover illness, it was something completely different,” she says. “My stomach was super nauseous, in knots. My whole body felt like it was in a fog. Like, my head was just in a really weird funk. It’s so hard to describe.” She also had physical injuries including a hickey on her neck and vaginal bleeding. “My entire body was just sore and in a funk.” That night, her roommate convinced her to go to the pharmacy and get Plan B, the morning-after pill.
Corey Mock is not a rapist, but clearly he made a bad decision.
DON’T HAVE SEX WITH GIRLS AFTER THEY VOMIT.
I’ve got four sons and two daughters. Everybody knows how hard I’ve fought against this feminist “rape epidemic” hysteria, but an ethos of personal responsibility goes both ways. I am not going to step aside while feminists use Title IX to obliterate the constitutional rights of young men every time a woman has post-hookup regrets, but young men should not be surprised when their irresponsible behavior has bad consequences.
Wake up, everybody: Bad things happen to drunk people.
It was stupid of Molly Morris to go to that party alone.
Excuse me if this sounds like “blaming the victim,” but let’s get real: If you show up at a party at 2 o’clock in the morning, after everybody’s already been drinking for hours, that’s not really a safe situation. To show up at 2 a.m. alone? Are you crazy?
Two words, ladies: Buddy system.
Never go to a bar or a party alone.
Better yet: Don’t go to bars or parties, period.
Especially not at 2 a.m.
As for you guys, the formula is simple: Vomit = No Sex.
Not difficult to remember that, is it? But if you need a more extensive lesson, here is Corey Mock’s father’s advice:
My son, Corey Mock was accused of sexual assault by a young lady named Molly Morris while at the University of Tennessee Chattanooga in the Spring of 2014. I am not writing this to defend my son; the truth is, no one really cares — that’s life. I am writing this because I don’t want to ever read about this happening to another wrestler again.
Undoubtedly, many of you have read one or more of the articles currently “out there” on my son’s case; almost all of these have been written by feminists pushing their agenda. I am not going to address this except to the extent I believe it will help others, so here is the very simple truth, and I apologize in advance for providing explicit details but unfortunately they are critical to this story.
My son asked Molly Morris if she wanted to go into the bedroom; she said “yes”. They both lay in the bed and began kissing. He removed her pants and performed oral sex. At some point, he stopped to remove his clothes and she removed her bra. He climbed on top of her and after having some trouble entering her, she reached down and guided him inside her. At NO TIME during this encounter did Ms. Morris communicate in any way that she did not wish to engage in sexual activity, verbal or otherwise. She does not dispute that any of these details happened, she merely says she does “not remember”. (A toxicology exam a day later was negative confirming there was no drug in her system.). Two days later, after a series of very pleasant text message exchanges between the two of them which are in evidence, she suddenly informs him that she “never gave consent to sex”. If you do not believe her actions denote “consent”, you should probably stop reading now. My son has NEVER been accused by a law enforcement agency; unfortunately for us, she never went to the police.
At the initial hearing conducted by the school, my son was found innocent of all charges. One week later, with absolutely NO additional evidence or explanation, the judge simply reversed her decision.
I AM NOT WRITING THIS TO ENTERTAIN YOU; I AM WRITING THIS TO WARN YOU!
There has been a fundamental change on college campuses all over this country. In this current culture of “hookups” in lieu of dating, with women every bit as sexually aggressive as men on campuses, parents, wrestling coaches, and wrestlers heading to college need to understand the extent of this new danger. I am not just the father of a wrestler, I am a Division 1 wrestling coach as well and I am very familiar with the college culture.
If a woman accuses you of sexual assault at UTC, you will immediately be removed from the wrestling team prior to any investigation or determination of guilt. YOU HAVE NO CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS IN COLLEGE. The colleges have taken the position that you relinquish your rights when you sign the application and the courts have upheld this. This is not just at UTC, this is everywhere. The University or College will do everything in its power to prosecute you and kick you out of school regardless of the evidence and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, and they know it. You can sue the school and the alleged victim as we are doing, but the minimum cost to sue is $50,000 and the NCAA isn’t going to give you your year back if you win.
This sounds nuts right? This can’t be true! Thanks to our liberal politicians who cater to the very well funded and well organized feminist groups, the Dept. of Education through Title IX (sound familiar) has put every college in the country on notice that if they find a college has not been “responsive” to sexual assault accusations they could lose their federal funding. Colleges are scared to death and their reaction is to crucify young men who are accused. Why are we not hearing more about this? Because most people can’t afford (or choose not to afford) to sue the schools and therefore, the schools are not being held accountable. The Duke Lacrosse case and currently the UVA fiasco are two exceptions that are in the media.
Morally and ethically I want to say, don’t have sex until you get married. We all know that would be naive. Ignoring this problem because it’s edgy would be irresponsible. Having said that, my strong and now experienced advice to you is if you choose to have sexual relations with a girl, get her on video on your phone consenting verbally. Make sure it is clear on the film that she is of sound mind. There is little else that will help you if she suddenly decides she made a mistake and accuses you of assault.
Relaying the specific explicit details of this event bring myself, my son, and our family no pleasure. This has been a very difficult and heart breaking experience. Corey will lose the opportunity to compete his last year and he emphatically denies doing anything wrong; we intend to prove that in a court of law. But, we agreed not to be silent; and to do everything we can to help prevent this from happening to others.
First published at TheOtherMcCain.com
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